Sad Day in San Miguel Del Zapote

LOBO our dog.

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My kids hug him, and receive kisses from him all the time, when everyone else “shoo’s” him away. He is huge, stinky and a flea bag.
From the moment we arrived, Lobo followed us everywhere. J took us on a tour of the town, and Lobo came with. Every time I took the kids to “El Campo”, he came with. Every time we went to local businesses for groceries, he came with. Every time we went to “El Jardin” he came with. If I went alone he came with, if they went alone, he would go with.

Our dog Lobo went to Doggie Heaven.

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He wasn’t actually ours, but belonged to Tia Rafa across the street. A long time ago Lobo went missing. Apparently he had jumped out of the truck on the way home from the mountains. After a long time, in Zalcoalco, a town 30 minutes away, the family saw a dog that had been burned but was very excited to see them. Lobo rode back home that day 7 years ago, with J.

We never had the heart to make him go home when we went to “El Jardin”, even if he was always run off by other people, because he was a menace there. He would take food from little kids and looked for attention from people who didn’t want to get their hands dirty. We didn’t have the heart to send him home…. Until this day.

It’s sad really, our last memory of him we were not very nice. He was a great companion.

The way he left us is really gruesome. I tried keeping it from Elaina. Apparently, they told everyone, even small children. She started talking about it yesterday.

WARNING: Stop reading NOW if you don’t care to know the details!

Elaina said “Lobo”
Put her hand to her neck and ran it across.
Then closed her eyes and stuck out her tongue.

A day ago I heard a seven year old say she went to go see all the blood. I also heard a child younger than Elaina mention it.
J had to work, but when he got home he asked where he was he wanted to bury him. Unfortunately, they had paid the trash people to take the head away. The rest of him was taken with the train.

DOD: Tuesday July, 23, 2013

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Todas Las Gracias Las Debo A Ti!

People say, blood is thicker than water.  People say family first.  Here is my family. 

These people who are dear to my heart are people whom I don’t expect anything from.  They don’t owe me a thing, yet they are there for my family through thick and thin.  No one on the face of this earth owes me a thing, I am not entitled to any special treatment.  Yet, these people actually ride or die.

When crap hits the fan, they grab a shovel.

His friends are the families he worked for. Yes they are his friends. You see, J was hired an attorney by these friends. The attorney said there was nothing that could be done in his case, & his friends apologized for not being able to do more.    I only wish I had a picture of them, sadly I don’t, but in my heart they are my friends as well.

My sister-in-law who helped me pack. & nephew helped my dad hang sheetrock.

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My aunt who worries about my choices yet did everything she could and got me my mother’s birth certificate so I can apply for my dual citizenship.

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Lil Brother who always digs me out of every financial hole I have ever dug myself into.

My Brother & his beautiful Family.

My Brother & his beautiful Family.

My dad, no matter what I do he is still my daddy and he breaks his back (literally) helping me as much as he can.

My Daddy

My Daddy

My Grandmother for giving me rides when I need them, and taking care of the kids.

Grandma and Great Grandma!

Grandma and Great Grandma!

My friends since 6th grade. 21 years of friendship. It hasn’t been all fun. It hasn’t been all fair. It is the greatest affection for people who are not related.

Rebecca brought her husband Nate, and her dad to help me move one beautiful weekend. When I am sure they would have much rather spent it inside their air-conditioned home gaming with their kids. 

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Christina has helped me every weekend, and weekdays after her 8 to 5 J.O.B. and has brought the most awesome babysitters, painters, and muscle I could have asked for. There is no way, I could ever thank her and her kids enough even if I thanked them everyday till my dying day. 

SUPER Friends

SUPER Friends

Leah is lending me her very talented husband to fix some wood flooring issues so that I can rent my house out in decent shape.

Everyone needs that simple friendship.  The most innocent of friendships.  This is mine.

Everyone needs that simple friendship. The most innocent of friendships. This is mine.

Wait then there is those awesome people most new to my life and blessed that they opened their hearts to our new friendship.  Andrea and Jose on a very important and special Saturday they lent their time to help me move, before rushing home to send off their beautiful daughter to prom.

My Friends for life, Andrea and Jose

My Friends for life, Andrea and Jose

They are angels who come out just when you need them.  The Friends who are not there every day because life goes on, but without you having to ask they just do.

I am grateful to you and I apologize for any amount of time you all have lost.

I want to also take the time to thank my Kids.  They have lugged more than their share.  Sweated their little hearts out pulling boxes to heavy for them to carry.  Pulling nails from stubborn studs.  Painted, although they think that part was fun.

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It may have taken an extra month, year, decade before I go.   Thanks to you, it will not be long. 

I do know that God wants us together, we want to be together, and we will soon be together.

I am not there yet, but I am one step closer than yesterday.

All thanks to those featured here.

Here kitty kitty.

Free Kitty for a person of a cheery disposition
Never be cross or cruel,
Never give her castor oil or gruel,
Love her as a daughter,
& never smell of barley water,
If you won’t scold and dominate her,
I will never give you cause to hate her.

(-merry poppins)
 

J bought his princess a kitten. When we yell at Elaina to leave the poor thing alone because she is laying on her or sitting on top of her, so kitty won’t leave her side, this is how she puts it “I lub har, and I kiss har, and I lube har, and I kiss har, and I lub har, and I kiss har”.

The boys from the get go asked if we would be taking Katfish with us. I naturally said,”yes”. How hard could it be? I should have looked into it sooner. It’s not that it’s hard. It’s just more of a financial burden.

Only Dogs and Cats can be taken into Mexico without special import a permit, that’s the good news. It doesn’t apply to me so I didn’t even look into it. Sorry, but I’m exhausted of research. If Katfish were to go with us, I would need to have her checked out by a licensed veterinarian approved by the state to issue her a Healthcare Certificate, and get her shots, no more than fifteen days before we leave.

J is Katfish’s favorite. He fed her and cleaned her litter. He tells me to find her a home, but doesn’t tell them (the kids). He talked to Elaina and told her “Elaina, I am buying you a baby donkey, so you can ride it.” She replies “and a talking unicorn?!?!?”

If you know a great Vet who can do the following work for less it would be greatly appreciated.

Office Visit $40.00
Rabies Shot $20.00
Distemper Shot $30.00
Certificate of Health $100.00

OTHERWISE, I am the one who has to break the news to the kids. This won’t be fun. P.S. I rented my house and need to find Katfish a new home by Thursday if not back to SPCA she goes. She is spayed and has that chip to locate her if she gets lost.

Katfish and her worst nightmare.

Katfish and her worst nightmare.

Jupiter Jumping June

As in busy as a bee, lots on my plate, overloaded, swamped! It’s crunch time.

1. I just have to finish moving out.

2. Find renters for both houses, sign contracts, and get deposits.

3. Doctor’s appointments for the kids on two different days (they only see two at a time, I have 3). I am going to beg for diarrhea medicine in anticipation that they will get sick when we get there.  I don’t know what else to beg for, so if you have any suggestions that would be awesome.

4. One last visit I need to make to the DMV Department of Motor Vehicles.

5. Court date from an accident and hopefully my last court date I have done everything they have asked for.

6. Plus one full day at the Mexican Consulate. (more info in a bit)

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Must tell you I received my USA PASSPORT! Finally ONE thing accomplished. It only took a month and a day.

The kids passport documents I sent first but remember they put a hold on them for the DS-3053 needed from J with a time limit.

I received J’s notarized forms, copy of his Mexican ID, and Original Birth Certificate May 30th 2013 (PERFECT ANNIVERSARY GIFT), and I forwarded DS-3053’s to the US Passport agency the following day. Let’s hope they speed it up and I get all the birth certificates back before our first appointment at the Mexican Consulate to start Dual citizenship for all of us on June 19th. Why do I say the first appointment? Well, because they do the process in steps and it’s a different appointment for each step.

Did you read that right? Yes all of us have appointments. Remember, I explained the visa process in a previous blog, but since we are all lucky enough to have one parent from Mexico we can skip all those shenanigans, except, I didn’t have my mother’s Mexico Birth Certificate as she died when I was 12. All her brothers and sisters are here but thanks to one of my aunts she contacted aunts and cousins who were kind enough to lend me their time, drive to the big city, pay the fees, and search for her certificate themselves. No, they don’t have the luxury of ordering them online. Not only did they retrieve it but hand delivered it to Houston. It’s not actually in my hands but it is here and will definitely have it by my appointment time!

This brings me to the many thanks that I owe and I owe more than I can count….. No that deserves a post all of its own.

Is that all?

1 + 1 + LOVE + FORGIVENESS + HARDWORK = 16 YEARS

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Blessed with someone who truly loves me, unconditionally despite my selfish ways.

He spoils me. I don’t chuck my oysters. I don’t peel my crawfish. I don’t even cut my meat (except at a restaurant) I don’t pump my gas. Now I have had to he isn’t here.  He told me if I was spoiled before when we are together again he is going to spoil me more.  I look forward to that. 

He doesn’t cheat on me or on anything. In his own words “The ONLY thing I have ever stolen is your heart”.

He is kind to everyone especially children and elderly. He puts YOUR feelings and comfort above his own. He has a great sense of humor. He is absolutely talented in building, drawing, sewing, cooking, and ever so knowledgeable in science, history, math, music and all things outdoors (fishing & camping).

You must, you just must understand that even though he drives me nuts with him being overprotective of me and his children (he also said he would do more of this, I don’t look forward to this), there is no way God made anyone better for me. When hard times come at us I have friends and family to remind ME how they too think he is a keeper.

I don’t just feel butterflies when I see him, I feel Noah’s Ark.

This Past Spring Break at the Fort Worth Zoo 2013

  
HAPPY 16TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY!

I look forward to spending more family time the way only we could enjoy.

This is how we spend time together.  Working on projects. <3

This is how we spend time together. Working on projects. ❤

I’m the better Parent, He’s the better Parent (repeat)

I have been on a standstill waiting on these passports. J finally got his Mexican ID and is making a trip to the city to get it done at the American Consulate Today. Still I have to wait for all the documentation to reach me so I can send to the Passport Agency.

Only a few more days of school, seven days to be exact, sadly the beginning of summer does not mean goodbye to Houston. Not yet. The good news is that Johnny’s excited about starting Summer ACE (after school program that runs for a month after school is out). They usually get two field trips a week and as he expressed his excitement to me, Manuel whines “I don’t want to go to Summer ACE”.

“Why my love? You will have fun! I wish I could go to Summer ACE so I can go to the zoo, aquarium, and lots of other places.”

“I want to go to Mexico with my daddy. I want to play King Kong.” 

I promised him that as soon as Summer ACE is done, we would go. I pray daily, hourly that I can keep that promise, but there is still so much that has to get done.

I told J, then I thought the phone had disconnected, I yelled, “Babe!? Amores!? HELLO!?” He whispered, “Give me a minute”.

I guess I should stop telling him such stories.

Yesterday, we (My best friend Chrissy and I) decided to take them to Sylvan Beach for some Memorial Day fun.

We haven’t been since March and by this time if J was here they would have already had several trips, with several catches of fish under their belts, and we would have had some very delicious fish fries.

 

Texas Parks and Wildlife - Cleburne State Park

Texas Parks and Wildlife – Cleburne State Park

Johnny asked for his fishing reel and tackle box. When I told Manuel to grab his he said “I don’t want to fish today, I want to fish with my daddy”.

I didn’t tell J that I was taking them until we returned home. He didn’t like me to have them take baths while he was at work, for fear they will drown & I didn’t want to worry him. I think we did pretty good just us girls with the kids. Except for one thing we forgot. Sun block. It wouldn’t have happened on J’s watch.

The boys stayed home Today from school from the pain. Well at least I’m not the one who withdraws them early from school to take them fishing.

 

Why on Earth?

Wish I could say we are retiring early. That we won the lotto and are escaping from the zombie relatives coming back from the dead for their cut. That we have planned for years, and it’s been our lifelong dream.

The truth is, it was a fear that someday it would happen. If you have known J and I the 16 years (this May 30th) we been married, then perhaps you know he had lived here illegally for majority of those years.

ICE knocked on our door one morning, April 17th, 2013, and deported him to his birth land. Although he has lived here since a toddler, he considers himself an American, USA is all he knows but he feels he does not belong anywhere. U.S. does not want him and Mexico is not his home.

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He does belong with his family. That would be ME, Johnny (10), Manuel (6), and Elaina (3).

I didn’t always feel this way. After they deported him in the first few years of marriage, I was ready to move on. He has always said he wanted to grow old with me. He returned because I would not go and has not relinquished his commitment to me or his kids for one second.

I may have been afraid to move before; okay I am still afraid. I do want to move. It now sounds exciting. I look forward to our new adventures. I get to live in another country! I get to go visit clear blue beaches. Like the ones we visited when we were in Florida. Even better they will now be our beaches.

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J has all of our hearts, and maybe some of yours.